Cat’s in the Cradle

My oldest son Noah absolutly amazes me. For the past few months he has been spending his spare time reading the blogs of our friends and family. My first instinct is to say, “Noah, go outside and play” but somewhere along the way I realized that he is reading and building relationships with our friends. Not to mention the fact that Jennifer and I do the same thing in our spare time. So if we know you and you have a blog there is a good chance that my 6.5 year old son has read every post on it. Over the past few weeks his obsession has gone to a new level. He started asking his mom and I if he could write something on her blog. We allowed him to post a few things on the blog. He learned to upload pictures, type and publish his post. So this weekend I asked if he wanted to start his own blog. He looked at me as if the possibility had never occurred to him and said, ya ya ya! So here it is… my six year old’s blog.

And as I hung up the phone it occurred to me,
He’d grown up just like me.
My boy was just like me.
(Yeah, yeah, yeah)

Noah’s Brain

Lunch With Friends

Today I had a great time hanging out with some church planters. Daniel Floyd from lifepoint invited a few guys to lunch today at their new church office. Dave & Aaron Profitt, Jamie Limato & Josh Soto were all there from Alethiea, the Lifepoint staff and Chris Rodenhizer. We talked primarily about Leadership and gained some great insights into the ministries of these churches. I have to say that it is really nice to have a group of planters working in the same area that have such a heart for the church. Everywhere I have been in ministry I have attended ministerial association meetings. They are usually a joke! Meeting with these guys is like meeting with a group of friends. We genuinely like each other and want to see one another’s ministries succeed.

One of the guys who was there, Jeremy Pickwell writes some insightful comments about church planting on his blog.

If I was to just walk into our house and slap some paint on, over time the paint would begin to peel off and look real nasty. So we must sand, and wipe down, and patch holes, sand some more, tape, lay down tarp, prime, maybe prime again, and finally paint…and maybe even paint again. The point is, it took us forever before we were even able to paint. And that sucked. We wanted to just paint. But I think many church planters get in the same boat. They just want to open the doors. They forget that there is a lot of prep work that goes into it. And most of it isn’t fun.

I thought his comments were a must read for every planter. Inevitably, every church plant I have ever participated in has had some vision vultures who have said something like… “Why dont you just get to it” – “You are making this more like a business than a church” – “You are making this harder than it is”. If you are considering planting a church. I would say to you you cannot do enough pre-thought & pre-planning and preparation. It is part of planting a church.

Big take away from today: Daniel Floyd said, “high calaber leaders will rarely buy into the vision of a low quality orginazation.” It made me wonder how many potentially great leaders, or potential church planters have visited pillar once and moved on because nothing they saw or heard communicated our big dreams to them.

Watch What You Say…

“He who guards his mouth and his tongue keeps himself from calamity ” (Pr. 21:23).

A few years ago the Post was doing an article on God-song (read it HERE). In the interview I made some comments about the Christian dance pop group Jump 5. Now, I don’t know the guys from Jump 5, I have never seen them in concert nor have I ever popped in their CD. The only thing I know of them was their reputation in the music industry. The comments I made were flippant and partially unfounded. I nearly forgot about the situation until today I was sorting old emails and came across an email from one of the guys in the group who read the article.

Hey pastor Clifton!
This is Chris from the group Jump5! I wanted to write in reponse to you article in the paper! We started this group about 7 years ago, I being the eldest of the group was 13 when this group started and now I am almost 20. In the beginning this group was very talented but very pure minded to the business! We were pushed around by the record label and yes writing our own songs was something that we all wanted to do and pushed the record label to let us do! But we according to the record label were stupid kids who didn’t know anything! So we recently this summer got new managment and we left the record label and we just put out a Christmas CD in which we wrote 6 songs and we did 3 traditional song! I hope this email will change your mind about the ministry we have been trying to convey to our peers! I am not worried about what the group looks like in this position I am only concerned because there are not many teens out there trying to reach out to people in the way God has given us the oportunity to. We the group are very strong in our faith and know where we stand and we know that God put this group togeher for reasons beyond what we even know! We have been a vessel to hange lives and, God has saved lives through this ministry he started with us. Is it really a concern on who writes the songs? Saving and changing lives and doing what God has called us to do is what we are to do! Thank you so much for reading this email!

Love Christopher Fedun

I would like now to publicly endorse Jump 5. I think think you should buy there CD’s and watch there video’s on you tube.

So a few lessons to be learned:

  • Watch What You Say.
  • There is always more to the story.
  • Don’t do an interview in Wal-mart.

Practical Hints for Planters

For all of you church planter nut jobs out there who are working your tails off to start churches here are a few practical helps for you that I have utilized over the past few years.

  1. You can get a huge map of your community from your county mapping office. For example yesterday I went to the Prince William County Mapping Office in the county complex, paid $7.50 and walked out with a 6 foot map of the area directly surrounding my church plant. Pin that baby on the wall, mark your peoples houses with pens or stars. It will remind you to pray, give you a new perspective. These maps are also much more up to date than the commercial ones that you will find online they often include new and planned construction.
  2. These are usually a few hundred bucks so this is a sweet one… If you happen to be a S. Baptist you can get a free demographic report of your community, customized to your requests and sent to you (via email as a PDF). Order one HERE.
  3. For those of you who are preaching, want to be Biblically faithful, but may not necessarily be Greek scholars, The Resurgence has produced an outstanding website to help you. Check it out HERE.
  4. For those of you who have “friends” who struggle with porn addictions HERE is another free resource that we are using in our church plants.
  5. If you are just starting the process of planting and would like to have an experienced planter that you could bounce some ideas off of I would love to hook you up with someone. I can’t tell you how helpful it has been to me to have people that I could call to ask questions and get feedback. Please send me an email at clint@god-song.com and I will do my best to establish a relationship that will help you to make wise decisions.
  6. There is a blog for church planter wives HERE

Pastor As Mentor

When I was 19 My pastor let me preach. Not only did he let me preach but he gave me prime time and an introduction that very well could have been for Billy Graham. His belief in me made a huge impact on my life. When I planted a church I decided that my pulpit would be a place where nervous and untrained men could experience the sacred desk. Over the past three years many of the faithful men in our congregation have preached on a Sunday morning.
A few days ago Ben Arment posted this outstanding paragraph about the pastors role as a mentor. Check out this gut reply that came from a young guy called to ministry.

From the mouth of God.

Ben, as you may know I am a public school teacher trying to transition into full time ministry. I am longing to be mentored like that. I am even applying to the Protégé program with NCC and Mark Batterson. It would require me to liquidate my life and move my family 1500 miles east while also having to raise financial support to live on for at least a year. The funny thing is I think I am actually willing to do that to get the kind of mentorship and experience that I am seeking. BTW I am a member of a church that runs 3500 in worship and 2500 in life groups on Sundays.

Posted by: Chris Saulnier

Questions & Answers

I don’t even know why we started doing this but from week one at Pillar Church we have had a Q & A at the end of the service. Usually when I conclude the teaching I open the floor for any questions or comments. About 20% of the time you can hear crickets chirping but the majority of the time some really good questions come out. Over the course of more than three years of doing this we have had two or three uncomfortable moments. There was the time when someone from the audience referenced a playboy article and the time when a visitor declared that the point of my sermon was untrue. Overall, however, the experience has been one I wouldn’t trade for the world.

Dennis McCallum at Xenos does this at the end of each of his services and has people lining up at microphones placed around the building to respond. Mark Driscoll does a thing called “Ask Anything” where he allowed popular vote to determine his sermon series. He also allows people to text message questions to him that he will answer on the spot at the conclusion of a service.

I think people have questions and I’m not sure how likely they are to get answers to the questions that we aren’t allowing them to ask.

Factors Effecting My Sunday

So yesterday was Sunday. Sunday is an important day in the life of a pastor/planter. There were several factors that made this Sunday a very different day.

Factor #1- The Oxycodone Factor. Eight days earlier I woke up with a sore throat and ignored it… I finally went to the doctor last Sunday and was sick for the entire week. Yesterday morning when I woke up I stared at my bottle of Oxycodone trying to decide if the pills in this bottle would help me preach better or worse… I made the wrong decision and downed one with my other antibiotics.

Factor #2- The Headlight Factor- This week I taught 1 John 1:5-10. The passages is comparing light and darkness to God and sin. Our creative team decided that darkening the room and using stage lights would be a good way to illustrate the text. Here is what it looked like. (note to self) Strong Drugs + Strong Lights = Bad Preaching.

Factor #3- The Lee Roy Factor – On Sunday nights Jennifer and I are assisting with a church plant that meets about an hour away from our house. We headed down to the church plant to help with setup to find out that Lee Roy, the man who opens the door forgot to come and unlock the building. So… we had preview service on the front porch of an elementary school.

Lies I Learned at Church

I’ve got a new sermon series brewing in my head… but I could use a bit of your help. So the series deals with exegetical fallacies and theological tall tales. I was thinking of calling the series “Lies I Learned in Church”. I don’t want to deal only with theological and exegetical issues but also hit some practical issues. I will give you the beginning of my list and you feel free to fire at the comments section to with any ideas you have. I was thinking of building the series around music since so much of our bad theology started out as a bad song lyrics.

  1. When He Was on the Cross, I was on His mind.
  2. God Loves People More than Anything.
  3. My Children Come to Me by Choice. SEE IT

Squash, Just like grape

A great shinsei once taught me a valuable lesson:

Mayagi: Walk on road, hm? Walk left side, safe. Walk right side, safe. Walk middle, sooner or later
[makes squish gesture]
Mayagi: get squish just like grape. Here, karate, same thing. Either you karate do “yes” or karate do “no.” You karate do “guess so,”
[makes squish gesture]
Mayagi: just like grape. Understand?

most of the time I fell more like a squashed grape than a prize fighter. I think I’m in the middle of the road.